TFF: I’m nowhere near aggressive so my question is how do I get studs to approach me? I don’t want to wear a rainbow ribbon everyday and oddly enough, even when I do or if I’m at gay events, I always get the you don’t look gay comments. Rather the “you must be an ally, or you are just doing this for fun not for real” comments. HELP!
Tyra B: Believe it or not, a lot of studs are afraid to approach women whether they know you’re gay or not. We don’t like rejection and we don’t want to offend women who aren’t gay. So it’s not you, it’s us. To give her some encouragement though, I would give off some flirtatious vibes. Make eye contact, smile, etc. Also, try and work up the nerve to approach a stud. It’s extremely sexy when a femme makes the first move. If that doesn’t work, you can always slide in her DMs. I know a lot of people who’ve met their match online via social media and dating sites. Watch out for catfish and creeps, though.
TFF: For the studs who disagree with stud on stud relationships, why do you disagree with them and do you believe that the feelings you have towards them comes from our heteronormative society?
Tyra B: I personally don’t have a problem with stud on stud relationships, it’s just not my preference. I’m attracted to feminine women and that’s because they’re the best thing that God’s ever created in life, lol. But I don’t care about who someone else is attracted to. It’s none of my business. I can’t speak for studs who disagree with it but I believe those feelings do stem from being conditioned in a heteronormative society. It could also be an identity crisis. They’ve taken on the position of the typical straight male, who don’t mind or will fantasize about two women but are perplexed, disturbed or disgusted by the thought of two men together. We’re all women. There are, without a doubt, different breeds of women, but we’re still women. We all look the same when the clothes come off. It’s all about preference and tolerance. Love is love.
TFF: Are a lot of studs comfortable dating aggressive femmes? Someone said to me that’s like dating a borderline stud is that true?
Tyra B: Again, it’s all about preference. I’ve got a good level of aggression in me so I try to balance that out with a partner who can take me on but knows when to be submissive as well. My motto is: I wear the pants but she’s the boss. The stud that said that to you may not be able to handle all that energy but it just sounds like damn good sex to me.